I’m an avid follower of Hal Elrod’s book: The Miracle Morning (Routine), known as S.A.V.E.R.S. which I perform daily before I turn on the “weapons of mass distraction”. This is what I call my phone, email, text, social media. Below are 10 methodologies of relaxation I use to employ the balancing act.
- Silence: every day I seek a few minutes of no music, gadgets or man-made noise so I can just quiet my mind. For 1-5 minutes, no thoughts, just silence. (Then, I choose to meditate and sometimes even pray. Prayer, for me, is offering love, gratitude or forgiveness to specific people in my life that need it). You do what works for you, I’m just sharing what I do.
- Affirmations: I have a list of positive phrases I say out loud daily, to manage what I say when I talk to myself. The most cruel voice we hear most of the time is our own; be good to yourself.
- Visualize: I used to use “Dream Boards” photos I pasted on a board to represent my goals in my 5 Circles of life: Family-Spiritual-Financial-Business-Health. But, last year I went high tech and made a slide show of images that take me (both to my life I’m enjoying) and still the life I’m still striving for, on my phone and also 4 minute movie version, set to one of my favorite songs to watch on my computer to fire me up daily.
- Exercise: Daily at a minimum I walk with my dog 5 miles. But, I also hike weekends up to 13 miles, recently I started work out with a personal trainer & attending her boot camps & hikes too. You naturally enhance your mood and competence-level for stress & decisions.
- Read: I’m not only on a physical diet, I’m on a mental diet of good books. I try to read 2 per month minimum and I alternate between motivational, history, biographies, business and personal interest: which is a combo of fiction and non fiction. I’ll read over watch T.V. as often as I can, waiting in line, waiting for a client that’s late; I just plan for and steal away time to read & grow my most important muscle
- Scribe or Journal: I try to capture my thoughts and activities through a series of daily journaling that includes: a detailed paper planner, a journal, blogging, photos and verbal notes I record on my phone to write in my journal later-thoughts I don’t want to forget or dismiss as unimportant. It’s a cathartic release of what would otherwise be bottled up or lost.
- BREATHE!: Sounds obvious, sounds like a trite seminar move, but it’s amazing how 2-3 deep breaths in and slowly let out relax your mind and body. I’m learning to breathe deeply at least once, before responding to a question or statement (especially a statement I disagree with). Sometimes #7 is “bite your tongue” and breathe later 🙂
- Disagree With Respect BNI taught me to “praise in public, criticize in private”. I’m opinionated, therefore I have to constantly remind myself to respectfully disagree. Leave the relationship in tact, it’s a conversation I’m disagreeing with, not necessarily the whole person. This goes for receiving criticism; it takes guts for someone that cares, to offer you honest feedback; receive it like a gift.
- Be Polite: Please & Thank You are so powerful; Mom taught me this from a young age and it’s never more true than in 2016, where they have become a rarity in conversations.
- Expect The Best: The world goes negative, don’t help it. Negative is easier than positive; work at assuming the best, not the worst. I’m genuinely sad for people with the attitude of “I don’t want to get my hopes up, it saves me from being disappointed when it doesn’t work out”. Fool! You can take more than one shot at it, and the second time you’re attempting it, your more experienced! This also speaks to #2-affirmations. Be careful what you say when you talk to yourself; you have a powerful influence over that mind of yours.